Sunday, February 05, 2023
Friday, March 11, 2022
Wednesday, March 02, 2022
Tuesday, February 22, 2022
Love & Respect
The Love & Respect Connection vs. The Crazy Cycle of Misunderstanding
Stumbled upon this while doing my daily devotionals and as I read along....
These information's struck me and indeed very very true, let me share this with you...
You are not alone. It’s true that men and women have different communication styles and needs. Mark 10:6 says, “But at the beginning of creation God made them male and female” (NIV). When this fact is acknowledged, then a shift toward productive and positive communication can start to radically transform your relationship.
First, what do women most need to feel from their men?
LOVE. Sounds simple, but a woman perceives love from her man in specific ways that he might not understand . . . yet!
Next, what do men most need to feel from their women?
RESPECT. Unfortunately, in this modern age, the word respect has many women bristling with disdain simply because they do not understand the biblical concept of the word. This dual misunderstanding of love and respect creates a sharp edge within relationship/marriage. But God longs for us to call a truce with our partner/spouse, to be humble and teachable. When properly executed, Eggerichs calls this the Love and Respect Connection. When this connection is broken, it leads directly to what he calls the Crazy Cycle: “Without love, she reacts without respect. Without respect, he reacts without love.”
Attention women!
Did you know that your husband always knows deep down that you love him, no matter the argument? But he is not nearly as confident and assured in your respect for him. This is why men don’t “need” love as a priority; they already feel they have it. Rather, when in conflict with you, their wife, they need to be assured of what they feel is at risk: your respect. As a result of not receiving respect, men often stonewall or withdraw. These patterns of actual or perceived disrespect can change, but it takes to trust in his love for you and humility to let your guard down and recharge him with feelings of respect and honor.
Attention men!
Your wife fears losing your love. Therefore, the more she communicates (aka “talks”), the more she believes she can resolve the dysphoria within herself and maintain your love. The frequent “diving deep” into your thoughts and feelings is for her to stay on top of any disharmonious feelings between the two of you and keep the lines open. When you feel critiqued and then shut down, she truly believes you are abandoning the unconditional, unending love you promised her.
Whew! Talk about miscommunication . . .
Remember what Eggerichs says: “Men hear criticism as contempt; women feel the silence as hostility.” When each of you can understand the miscommunication and take a moment to reevaluate and readjust your behavior (verbal or nonverbal), you come closer to living in the Energizing Cycle with each other. The Energizing Cycle says: “His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.” Doesn’t that sound so much better than the Crazy Cycle?
Read 1 Corinthians 7:33-34. These verses are about the desire to please one another. Ask your partner to share ways you could better love her or show respect to him. Have an open heart and open mind when doing this exercise. But do not offer to them an unsolicited list of ways they could better love or respect you. They may ask for it in return, which you could then carefully respond to. But do not enter this exercise with the intention of making it about you and your needs. Rather, keep your focus on how you can better love and respect your spouse.
Lord, You created male and female to be different yet still compatible. Help me accept the differences and open my heart to a deeper union. This requires a willingness to give something I’ve been withholding. Help my generosity toward my spouse be greater than my desire to obtain something for myself. Amen.
Friday, February 18, 2022
Tuesday, January 19, 2021
Visayan Traditional Music and Instruments
VISAYAN MUSIC
- Matud Nila
- Rosas Pandan
- Usahay
- Condansoy
- Ako Kini Si Angi
- Si Pelimon
- Ilo nga Bata
- Tong Pakitong Kitong
- Dandansoy
- Ili ili tulog anay
- Penpen De Sarapen
- Banduria
- Laud
- Octavina
- Gitara
- Bajo de Arco
Monday, January 18, 2021
Palawan Traditional Music and Instruments
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PALAWAN MUSIC
Sunday, January 17, 2021
Mindoro Traditional Music and Instruments
MINDORO MUSIC
- AMBAHAN - lyrical chant of pure Mangyan
- PAMUYBUYEN - songs about legends
- MARAYAW - a song used to communicate with spirits in rituals for healing the sick and protecting the community.
- Composed of seven rhyming syllables in one line.
- The number of lines found in 3 several Ambahan ranges from 3 to 4
- Can be sung in a variety of ways either with a tone like the pasyon or in a conversational way.
- Each person can sing the chant uniquely as there is no set melody
- It is written in a bamboo tube
Saturday, January 16, 2021
Cordillera Traditional Music and Instruments
CORDILLERA MUSIC
- Vocal Music
- Instrumental Music
- Vocal ensemble with instrumental accompaniment
- Metal
- Bamboo
- String
Friday, January 15, 2021
Filipino Traditional Musical Instruments
- Aerophones
- Chordophones
- Membranophones
- Idiophones
- Electrophones
Bulungudyong - vertical flute (Pinatubo Ayta)Palendag - lip-valley flute (Kalinga)Tongali - nose flute (Kalinga)Tumpong - bamboo fluteTulali - flute with 6 holesTumpong - bamboo fluteBansik - bamboo flute with three holes of the Negrito people in Zambales.
Paldong- called in the southPalendag- called in the north
Tongali- nose flute of KalingaKaleleng- nose flute of BontokUngiung- nose flute of IfugaoLantuy- nose flute of HanunuoLantoy- nose flute of BatakBulaktob - nose flute of BukidnonCuyunin- nose flute of Palawan/gigantic nose flutes with tubes much larger in diameter than those found in LuzonSuling- ring-type flutes used in the southern PhilippinesThumpong- whistle type flute of SubanunSaunay- reed whistle type flute of Tausug
Saggeypo- stopped pipes of KalingaSagay-op - stopped pipes of Bontok
DiwasDiwdiwasDew-dew
Plawta- transverse flute of ManoboPalawta- transverse flute of Hanunuo, WarayTipanu- transverse flute of Cuyunin, Batak of Palawan
Bamboo violin - a three-stringed violin of the Aeta people.Butting - a bow with a single hemp 5 string, plucked with a small stick.Faglong - a two-stringed, lute-like instrument of the B'laan. Made in 1997Budlong - bamboo zitherKolitong - a bamboo zitherPas-ing - a two-stringed bamboo with a hole in the middle from Apayao people.LutesBandurria - part of rondalya ensemble, it has a shorter neck and 14-strings compared to its Spanish ancestor.Kudyapi - a two-stringed boat lute from Mindanao.Laúd - similar to the bandurria, it is ultimately of Spanish origin. Also part of a rondalya ensemble.Octavina - part of a rondalya ensemble, it is of ultimately Spanish origin.
Two Types of Zithers
1. Polychordal zither2. Parallel stringed zithers
Lutes-are of the long neck variety, with two strings that run from the neck to the base of the resonating chamber.-One sting plays a drone, the other a melody-Though all the lutes are fretted, the location and number of frets vary between groups-found only in the south, in Mindanao and Palawan
Sample LutesKudyapi-are glued to the body of the resonating chamber-frets of the Maranao and Maguindanao-Frets are located on the neck of the instrument for the following;Fuglung - BilaanKudlong - MandayaKusyapi - Palawan
Fiddles- One stringed bowed lutes of the long neck variety- found in Mindanao- They have a sounding box made from a coconut half-shell covered with a leaf or a piece of bark or animal skin.- The string is made of abaca fibers, horsehair, and more recently, wire.- Duwagey by the Manobo and BilaanCumparsa-string ensemble emerged in the later period of the Spanish regime-adaptation of similar instrumental groups in Mexico (murza or murga) and Spain (estudiantina)Rondalla Ensemble-consists of plucked string instruments-the bandurria, the laud, the octavina, the six-stringed gitara, and the bajo de unas or bass guitar.
Bandurria- pear-shaped, with a rounded back, a round soundhole, and a fretted neck. - serves as the melody instrument of the ensemble- tuned an octave below the laudOctavina- tuned an octave below the laud- together with Bandurria furnish the inner harmonies and contrapuntal elaboration to the melody.Gitara- main function is to supply the arpeggiated or chordal underpinnings of the ensembleBajo de unasis tuned like the contra-bass
Agung a tamlang - bamboo (slit drum)Dabakan - goblet drum (Maranao)Gandang - double-headed barrel drum (Maranao)Kagul - scraperLibbit - conical drum (Ifugao)Sulibao - conical drum (Ibaloy)Gambal - drumsTambul - drum
Kimbal-taller drum (ca. 80 cm)Sulibao/Sulibaw-shorter drum (ca. 75 cm)-drum dead is small measuring about 6 cm. in diameter
Kubing - jaw's harp (Maranao)Gangsa - flat gongs made of bronze, brass, or iron used by Isneg, Tingguian, Kalinga, Bontok, Ibaloi, Kankanai, Gaddang, Ifugao, and Ilonggot.Gongs - varies in size, the average is struck with wooden sticks, padded wooden sticks, or slapped with the palm of the hand. Used by Cordillera highlanders is an integral part of peace pact gatherings, marriages, prestige ceremonies, feasts, or rituals.
Tuned gongsAgung - large gong suspended from an ornate frameGandingan - set of four large hanging knobbed gongsKulintang - set of eight tuned gongs placed horizontally in an ornate frame, tuned pentatonic scale|pentatonically.XylophonesGambang/Gabbang - bamboo blades on a frame (Yakan, Batak, B'laan, Badjao, Taus)Luntang - wooden beams hanging from a frame (Maguindanaon)MetallophonesKulintang a tiniok - set of eight, tuned knobbed metal plates strung on a wooden frame (Maguindanaon)Babandil - small gongSaronay - eight tuned knobbed metal plates strung over a wooden frame (Maranao)
- flat gongs
- bossed gongs
3 Types of GongsKulintang-sets of graduated gongs laid in a rowAgung-larger, deep-rimmed gongs with sides that are turnedGandingan- gongs with narrower rims and less prominent bosses












