Happiness

#Happiness,

#OldFriend,

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Motivates Love and Respect

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#MotivatesRespect,

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Without Love and Respect

#WithoutLove,

#WithoutRespect,

#istariray23moments,

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Love & Respect

The Love & Respect Connection vs. The Crazy Cycle of Misunderstanding

Stumbled upon this while doing my daily devotionals and as I read along.... 

These information's struck me and indeed very very true, let me share this with you... 

You are not alone. It’s true that men and women have different communication styles and needs. Mark 10:6 says, “But at the beginning of creation God made them male and female” (NIV). When this fact is acknowledged, then a shift toward productive and positive communication can start to radically transform your relationship. 

First, what do women most need to feel from their men? 

LOVE. Sounds simple, but a woman perceives love from her man in specific ways that he might not understand . . . yet!

Next, what do men most need to feel from their women? 

RESPECT. Unfortunately, in this modern age, the word respect has many women bristling with disdain simply because they do not understand the biblical concept of the word. This dual misunderstanding of love and respect creates a sharp edge within relationship/marriage. But God longs for us to call a truce with our partner/spouse, to be humble and teachable. When properly executed, Eggerichs calls this the Love and Respect Connection. When this connection is broken, it leads directly to what he calls the Crazy Cycle: “Without love, she reacts without respect. Without respect, he reacts without love.” 

Attention women!
Did you know that your husband always knows deep down that you love him, no matter the argument? But he is not nearly as confident and assured in your respect for him. This is why men don’t “need” love as a priority; they already feel they have it. Rather, when in conflict with you, their wife, they need to be assured of what they feel is at risk: your respect. As a result of not receiving respect, men often stonewall or withdraw. These patterns of actual or perceived disrespect can change, but it takes to trust in his love for you and humility to let your guard down and recharge him with feelings of respect and honor.

Attention men!
Your wife fears losing your love. Therefore, the more she communicates (aka “talks”), the more she believes she can resolve the dysphoria within herself and maintain your love. The frequent “diving deep” into your thoughts and feelings is for her to stay on top of any disharmonious feelings between the two of you and keep the lines open. When you feel critiqued and then shut down, she truly believes you are abandoning the unconditional, unending love you promised her.

Whew! Talk about miscommunication . . .

Remember what Eggerichs says: “Men hear criticism as contempt; women feel the silence as hostility.” When each of you can understand the miscommunication and take a moment to reevaluate and readjust your behavior (verbal or nonverbal), you come closer to living in the Energizing Cycle with each other. The Energizing Cycle says: “His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.”  Doesn’t that sound so much better than the Crazy Cycle?

Read 1 Corinthians 7:33-34. These verses are about the desire to please one another. Ask your partner to share ways you could better love her or show respect to him. Have an open heart and open mind when doing this exercise. But do not offer to them an unsolicited list of ways they could better love or respect you. They may ask for it in return, which you could then carefully respond to. But do not enter this exercise with the intention of making it about you and your needs. Rather, keep your focus on how you can better love and respect your spouse.

Lord, You created male and female to be different yet still compatible. Help me accept the differences and open my heart to a deeper union. This requires a willingness to give something I’ve been withholding. Help my generosity toward my spouse be greater than my desire to obtain something for myself. Amen.

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Reputation & Character

#Reputation,

#Character,

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Calculating Speed

Reposting it here from Teacher Nemuel

#CalculatingSpeed, #Science, #Teacher Nemuel Bandola, #istariray23learnings,

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Isipin Mo din Ako

#Love,

#Friendship,

#hugot,

#hugot101,

#hugotlines,

#hugotpa,

#hugotpamore,

#hugotfeels,

#hugotpinoy,

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Be with someone

#BeWithSomeone,

#LowestState,

#Love,

#Friendship,

#hugot,

#hugot101,

#hugotlines,

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#hugotpamore,

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MINEcraft

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#BeMineCraft,

#hugot,

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#hugotfeels,

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Tea, Anyone?

Have you tried these dried natural Ingredients for your cup of tea 🍵?

Natural, no preservatives, relaxing, healthy and delicious 😋

https://www.facebook.com/yourcupofteaph

#Ogimi,

#Tsaa,
#Tea,

#CupOfTea,

#HealthyDrinks,

#FoodLover,

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#istariray23endorsements,

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L.O.V.E.

 

LOVE STARTS WHERE EXCITEMENT ENDS

It starts when you get really used to the person you said you liked in the first place without knowing too well.

You can’t say I love the sea without diving deeply inside of it, without being hit by the waves, seeing the dark side of it in the night, resisting when it is unstable but after all, you still love and enjoy it.

That’s when you can really say you truly love.

Because love is not always about smiles, butterflies, and good times

True love only appears through hard tough times, though never giving up no matter how things go.

It is more like “I saw your bad sides and I’m still choosing you for a lifetime.”

#hugot,
#hugot101,
#hugotlines,
#hugotpa,
#hugotpamore,

#hugotfeels,

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February

Happy 1st day of February

Hello February to Everyone

I love you yesterday,

I love you still,

I love you tomorrow,

I love you always,

Always have,

And always will...

February,

Be mine...

-iStariray23

#February,

#MonthOfFebruary,

#FebruaryBeMine,

#Love,

#Friendship,

#hugot,

#hugot101,

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